The Ten BE-Attitudes in Raising Kids
Make it your GOAL to raise Godly Kids, not just jood kids.
Godly kids will be Good —- But Good Kids may not be Godly.
Know You ONLY GET ONE SHOT of RAISING THEM!!!!! If you get it wrong, you many have to raise your Grandkids too.
1. Be Right — Right With God
Can’t raise Godly kids if you walk in the Flesh —
Gal 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
2. Be Balanced
Ecc 7:16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself? 17 Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?
It’s not always Black and White ///// Allow Grey
Extremes ——- Note: There is a Ditch on both sides of the Road.
Note; It is not just Where you Stand it is How you Stand.
A good motto to live by was given by Augustine:
“In essentials, require unity; in non-essentials, give liberty; in all things, practice charity,”
3. Be Humble
Prov 13:10 Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
4. Be Patient
This is not a Sprint
A toddlers Tantrum —
Keep to your plan and don’t abandon your plan when you are not seeing immediate results.
Remember what build’s patience???? Tribulation! It is going to be a rocky road but the joy is worth it.
5. Be REAL
Hypocrisy –
Lu 6:41 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 42 Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.
Number One Reason why Kids leave Church when they become adults.
“My Parents are Hypocrites”
· Be the Same on Vacation as you are around Church folk.
· Practice what you Preach.
· Your TALK talks and your WALK talks but your WALK talks louder than you TALK talks.
6. Be Consistent
Isa 28:10 For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little:
Kids need the Comfort of Rules that never Change.
Train Up a Child means train. It is a process of repeated event to teach the right behavior.
7. Be Honest
When you are wrong — admit it.
It shows your kids you are more interested in being right than being in control.
2Co 8:21 Providing for honest things, not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of men.
Example — Monty Lying to waitress about the age of their kids to get a free meal.
8. Be Grateful
I Thes 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
A Negative home is
· Bitter
· Unhappy
· Entitled.
· Victimhood.
Grateful people are……..
· Happier
· Less depression
· Better relationships
· Cope with problems better.
Find Three Things to be thankful for
· Ps 55:17 Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice.
· An Attitude looking for things be THANKFUL / GRATEFUL for.
Kids are not Naturally GRATEFUL —
9. Be Adventurous
Look at every Trial and Challenge as an Adventure / Opportunity
Job 5:7 Yet man is born unto trouble, as the sparks fly upward.
Example: Watch Night Service — Iced Over Roads
10. Be Engaged
Absenteeism is huge is destroying our homes. Passive parenting is neglect. Stop it.
Get off the Phone – Get off Social Media — Put Away activities of Isolation.
Charles Francis Adams, the 19th century political figure and diplomat kept a diary. He wrote, “Went fishing with my son today—a day wasted.” His son, Brook Adams wrote in his diary, about the same event, “Went fishing with my father—the most wonderful day of my life!”
Kids Spell LOVE — T. I. M. E.
If you don’t have your child’s heart,,,,,, know that the DEVIL is pursuing it.